It’s so easy to be disappointed, but so hard to get over it. Take it from me, I know this. As someone who is fiercely competitive, I have gone through several stages to get to a point of being able to handle disappointments in a healthy way. Yet without a doubt, disappointments are as much a part of life as are successes. Having learnt this by working through several of my own disappointments, I share 5 tips to encourage and empower. Though framed for the over 60, 000 Chevening scholarship aspirants, the tips are largely applicable to several aspects of life.
Step 1-Focus on you: Now is the time to remind yourself of all the things that you are good at. In an effort to shift negative thought processes to a more positive frame, now is the time to think about yourself to highlight your positives and to motivate yourself to see yourself as being greater than your failures. See empowering morning routine I use via the video below.
Step 2- Do you REALLY want it? Failures/Disappointments provide an opportunity to ask yourself if you want this bad enough. This requires deep introspection about the reasons why you want this and if it is aligned with your other goals. If you have decided that it is not for you, do not chase ajourney that wasn’t made for you.
Step 3- Try again: Once you have decided that you do want this, do not hesitate to try again. The intial fear may be grippling, but in a worse case you will be able to prove that a specific path isn’t emant for you.
Step 4- Take a Break: Perhaps not a complete break, but enough of a break to allow for introspection and redirection. Some times this requires a break to strengthen other aspects of your life that can equip you to be a better fit for your aspirant role. See video below for some of my specific developments that occured once I took a break following a disappointing period.
Step 5- Celebrate the journey: Redirect your negative energies into the working on your happiness, boosting your confidence, spending time with loved ones and truly enjoying the things that you love.
In the end, disappointments will come, but don’t be daunted by these. You are greater than your challenges, bolder than your disappointments and what is for you, will be for you in its right time.
See details and my own journey dealing with disappointments via the video below.
Shanoy Coombs is a Development Communication strategist in the Latin America and Caribbean region. She specialises in Intercultural Communication, International Development and Communication for Development (C4D) Are you Social? Connect with Shanoy on twitter via @InspiraShan and learn more about her work via the projects page.
While the media and indeed the global public focuses on what could have finally pushed the hardly married couple and freshly minted parents towards this drastic move, some key communication lessons have emerged. From choices of announcement to, messages, medium and more, here are important internal and external communication lessons from the now labelled Meghan and Harry exit-Megxit.
*In a hurry? jump to video summary at end of post*
Internal Communication Tips
Without being equipped with the details on what constitutes the relationship between the Sussexes and the Monarch, some internal communication assumptions will be made. If one is to take the media reports at face value that the royal family only knew of the couple’s plans “to carve out a progressive new role in the institution 10 minutes prior to their announcement, there are huge red flags on the internal communication spectrum and some top internal communication tips would be as follows:
Focus on relationships: At the crux of every act of communication is not just the transference of meanings but the relationship between sender and receiver. Within the royal household, there seems to have been some disintegration of this and yet, one of the main C’s of communication is consideration. It would have served all parties well to remember to be considerate and the relationship that either needs to be maintained or renewed when selecting means of communication.
Medium is important: Following the announcement, I searched extensively to determine what other channels the royals had utilised to communicate their departure. Surely not just Instagram and a link to their web page I questioned. Yet at the time of writing, I was sure shocked to discover that such a major announcement was made via social platforms. Universally, it rings true that medium matters and a message such as this may have been best received via a more official platform externally and a more direct platform internally.
Face to Face Interactions are invaluable: As a direct follow on from the previous point, face to face interactions still prove valuable in a digitised world. Inconclusively, it has been said that the correspondence was emailed to the queen and other members of the monarch 10 minutes prior to being released to the public. For the nature of the announcement, face to face would have been especially meaningful with this particular announcement as it allows for emotive expressions, a more multifaceted communication experience and indeed the presence of verbal and non verbal cues to enhance the intended message.
Understand your audience: Research is super important in this respect. Admittedly, by virtue of interactions with the royal family for over 2 and 35 years respectively, one would automatically assume some familiarity with the ways of doing and being. Though the communication frames utilised may have been deliberate, an ideal scenario would see the Sussex Royals following established communication protocols and systems and directing communication flows accordingly.
Externally too, there are several communication lessons and tips that could have been applied.
External Communication tips
Be responsive: Beyond the informal medium, what stood out from the point of the announcement was just how the communication process could have better been managed with an ability to respond promptly and effectively. Crisis communications 101 notes the need to be responsive and take control of the communication process. In taking control, I almost made a solid bet that an official announcement would be forthcoming. Sadly this was not to be.
Know your audience: Who was the instagram post directed at? Was it too far fetched to have issued an official media statement? a media briefing? A part of me felt social media was utilised in line with Harry’s often more relaxed nature and perhaps to appeal to a more Gen Y/Millienial fan base. Yet, within a princely position, one would have attracted several key audiences of the diplomatic and non diplomatic ilk. Even within the public domain, the audience would have varied greatly. After all, I’ve long maintained, the general public isn’t so general after all
Choose Best Medium: Could a Press Forum have been a better medium to deliver the message? An exclusive interview? A snazzy live feed from the “Sussex Royals” instagram feed? Much like the previous points, medium matters and more importantly, it matters in relation to the respective audiences. In an ideal world, I was rooting for a closed door meeting to first arrive at a feasible solution going forward and then a joint, clean and tidy press announcement.
Create avenues for feedback: In line with the press announcement as well, it would have been desirable for there to be avenues for feedback. I’d therefore foresee room for a few questions and answers or even a detailed Frequently asked questions sheet that would be made available thereafter.
Be open and honest: At the time of writing, I watched prince Harry (via Instagram) at a charity event as he announced how difficult the decision had been and how he, and by extension Meghan intended to still continue along a path of service. Convincing? debatable, but his hints of humour throughout lightened the mood a bit and gave the appearance of an open and honest conversation which is always key for effective communication processes. My only thought was “I wish they had done this earlier”
At best, as humans we are prone to emotional moments where we digress from what we know to be the desired communication norms, but in a best case situation it pays to be prepared. Were these tips useful? What other effective communication tips would you recommend for the royals?
Shanoy Coombs is a Development Communication Consultant in the Latin America and Caribbean region. Are you Social? Connect with Shanoy on twitter via @InspiraShan and learn more about her work via the projects page.
During a recent supervisory mission to Belize, our team of Community Engagement, Monitoring and Evaluation and Project Management specialists assesed a project around Climate resilience in Mayan communities in the southern region. The occasion provided the opportunity to experience a time hop and experience first hand the benefits and significance of Intercultural Communication.
Intercultural communication by definition is the way that different groups or cultures communicate. It also refers to the different contexts that influence this communication and indeed the barriers.
Here’s a fact. Outside of language differences being a major roadblock in communication, different variations, even within the same community is something worth considering and this was evidenced during my recent mission.
What was discovered from the initial community assessment and engagement session was the need for constant and multiple interpreters throughout the process. After all, for such a culturally diverse space, there could often be heard fluent Spanish, hints of English and then the native Q’eqchi’ and Mopan. Further afield Belize also boasts countless languages including Belizean Creole, German, Garifuna and Plautdietsch which is spoken mainly by the Mennonite population. Imagine then, the conundrum if one were to attempt to implement a strategy for the “general public”, which I’ve already debunked in a prior post.
Even with its diversity, who would have thought that a “known term” such as climate change would prove troublesome. On the ground, we had to face this reality as in the native language, there were no equivalent to properly convey this term. Instead what emerged was a series of explanations, whereby members of the villages were able to interact and then share their understanding of what the term meant to them.
It was interesting to witness first hand all the language constructs that needed to be considered when creating what would otherwise be routine communication materials for the intended population.
Of key significance as well was the importance of cultural norms and how they affected our intercultural communication cycles. I’ve long known the importance of building trust with communities in the development communication framework but had quite the learning experience with the gatekeepers in Southern Belize. An important fact is the cultural hierarchies and how they influence what some may call a communication tree. One cannot and should never attempt for example to implement any initiative on behalf of a community without first building rapport, trust and even camaraderie with its leaders. In Belize, this was no different and was in fact a necessity.
Long known for its traditional system of governance which differs greatly from the urban areas of Belize, the Mayans of the south operate under this traditional system, recognized under both Maya cultural authority and the State of Belize and governed by both the Maya cultural tradition and the Constitution of Belize.
For context, this excerpt from the Cultural Survival network sheds a bit more light.
For over a century now, the Alcaldes work together with the Maya villages as guardians of Maya values and norms. Entrusted by their communities, the Alcaldes are the authorities of the Alcaldes System established to maintain the order of the villages using traditional governance.
Having recognized this, priority was given to first nurturing a relationship with the Alcaldes and the village councils before any attempt could be made to engage members of the villages. The nurturing of this relationship extended well beyond sharing our WHY and HOW the project would have been beneficial for the grouping to truly embracing and celebrating the culture. It was commonplace then to be invited in at every household for the special occassion meal of Caldo and corn tortillas. Today I’ll joke that I’ve never had as much of the same meal in any one go, but for me it was significant as with every household entered, every meal enjoyed, our team was one step closer to understanding and gaining the trust and approval of our Mayan audience.
This trust was all too integral as it eventually found us the approval we needed to proceed further with communicating directly with members of the villages. Even then, content had to be vetted and clearly explained in every go. The experience was a reminder about the importance of cultural norms and how to engage in such a way that there are no abrupt deviations from what holds.
Right Strategy, wrong fit
Another solid intercultural learning experience was linked to communication strategy mapping. As the Knowledge Management and Communication specialist on the ground. I quizzed both the community engagement officers (COs) and village members about how they communicated project related matters with each other. With a massive distance between villages, bumpy roads and long hours via bike for the CO’s, I recommended strategies such as a town crier/Megaphone to complement the existing means of communication. While acknowledging the possible benefits of this, the Co’s pointed out a key piece of data that I had not yet been exposed to. “Several of the community members are older. They prefer to have us here speaking to them directly, so that they can ask the questions repeatedly until they understand”. So it was that despite being able to only cover 2 households in one day, we agreed that culturally, word of mouth, though not the most efficient use of time was the most effective method based on the audience we served.
With the reminders about language differences, cultural sensitivities and the right strategy, In many ways, my Southern Belize experience reaffirmed much of what I already knew about communication as an interactive and engaging process. Yet it also found so many ways to serve as a reminder that on the intercultural communication path, there is value in patience, power in building trust and rewards in truly listening to be able to meet the needs of those we serve.
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Shanoy Coombs is a Development Communication Consultant in the Latin America and Caribbean region. Are you Social? Connect with Shanoy on twitter via @InspiraShan and learn more about her work via the projects page.
Happy New Year! Cheers to new communications goals and new communications targets! So I wanted to share a slightly different post today which is the perfect feel good vibe to kick off a new year with a tip or two on how to live the very best version of your life. So here’s the thing, I’ve always believed in the law of attraction. Before it became a buzz word, there was something that indicated that the relationship between the mind and what occurs in the physical realm are connected.
Call it a mix of instincts or your “inner voice” but what may have been a seemingly simple thing such as glancing at an umbrella before heading outdoors, or a tiny voice that buzzed “take an extra pair of shoe” have always converted into some connection with what was likely to occur throughout my day.
I know for example too that the few times I had been foolish enough to avoid new year resolutions led to an almost wanderless year for me. Similarly, I recall the very first time I made a strategic list of things I wished to achieve throughout the year and like clockwork at the end of the period, I had checked almost all the boxes. It is this little ‘thing’ this little buzz that has made me a firm believer in the power of the “YES Manifest”.
Back in April 2018, while a delegate at the International Social and Behaviour Communication Change (SBCC) summit, I sat engaged, involved and ever so active as presenter after presenter spoke about the varied Social and Behaviour Communication Change projects they were implementing in their countries.
You see, I was generally intrigued about the ways to better my craft as a Development Communication practitioner and specifically, I was listening out for tips I could take back to my native Jamaica to pour into my local Jamaican Mommies network. I had therefore slotted in quite a few sessions around teenage pregnancy, admittedly with women at the forefront of my mind. Yet, the more I listened, the more I discovered a growing global gap in the development space: Men and Boys.
Interestingly, it is a well known fact that men already hold disproportionate power to women and girls globally and so several efforts would have been made the world over to bring about gender equality with a rise in women empowerment interventions. As this empowerment movement grows, there have emerged new gaps in terms of how gender equality may be approached, especially when we begin to speak about men. Continue reading “The Global MenCare partnership & what it could mean for Jamaica”→
The recently concluded International Social Behaviour Change Communication (SBCC) summit in Bali, Indonesia brought together well over 1200 delegates from 429 organizations and 92 countries across the globe to interact and engage around all things SBCC. Under the theme: Shifting Norms, Changing Behavior, Amplifying Voice What works? with a focus on Entertainment-Education, the event was hosted by the John Hopkins Center for Communication Programs, The Communication Initiative, BBC Media Action, Soul City Institute and UNICEF.
The weeklong dialogue, presentations and workshops were engaging, interactive and zoomed in on What works, Making sense of the now and Agenda and Voice setting. Indeed being in the space was monumental as it provided a prime opportunity for awareness and conversations around the field that is at the root of some of the most effective behaviour change interventions. It therefore stood out sharply that the Caribbean’s voice was notably limited in such an important global event.
I started writing this post a while back and initially intended to cover the more negative aspects of workshops along the lines of “Why workshops don’t work in your favour” but now I’m sitting at the Social and Behaviour Change Communication summit here in Bali, Indonesia, soaking up so much knowledge and strategizing my next behaviour change moves that it shifted my tone.
Frankly, my initial trepidation and negative undertone was brought on by a few workshops that I had attended previously and sometimes left asking “Now what?” In fact, outside of my own skepticism, I’ve also interacted with other persons who have sometimes viewed workshops as “good for a time” or one of those “At least I get a break from the office” sort of affairs.
Now today, reformed, energized and ready to be more of a do gooder and change maker, I am more of a believer and want you to know that It’s not the workshop, It’s you! Quite a brazen conclusion but I’ve deliberately left off the “some workshops” and here’s why:
DO YOUR RESEARCH: Chances are, your bad workshop experience is linked to what you felt did not cover key areas you were interested in or were not engaging enough. Having coordinated and attended more than a few workshops over the past decade, I’ve discovered that a major way to avoid this pitfall is to thoroughly research the workshop, its objectives, the presenters and how they align to what your or your organization’s goals are. Sure your Human Resources Manager may have been handed a flier that pitched the session as “Highly effective for building strategic communication” but as the practitioner, your probe may reveal that the topics are ones you may already have been exposed to or the approach is one which may add no real value to your current post.
HAVE A GAME PLAN: Workshops, like conferences, summits et al can provide an excellent opportunity for meeting your personal and organizational goal, if you are strategic in your doing. Does the workshop or conference provide a list of speakers? Sponsors? Attendees? Are there specific persons you would love to connect with, unique best practices you are targeting? Write or type these down, Your pre- workshop preparation is as important if not more important than your actual presence. Plan ahead and maximize the value of being there
SCHEDULE AND PRIORITIZE: If you were to only do 2 sessions from any conference or workshop, which would it be? Seek to access workshop or conference materials ahead of sessions and carefully prioritize which are more impactful for your goals or your end game. I learnt this pretty early in but needed the reminder more than ever while at the Social and Behaviour Change communication summit while looking at agendas with close to 1200 attendees competing to book skills building workshops and fit into a diverse range of presentations, multiple “Interest sessions” running at the same time and almost everything being in line with my end game. It helped when I utilized the summit app and news and updates/ daily digest features to schedule sessions in order of “must dos” and alternates. Continue reading “IT’s NOT THE WORKSHOP, IT’s YOU: How to maximize your benefits everytime”→
Not too long ago, rumormongers in an effort to hurl nasty words would get the gears going by telling one, two then a few persons salacious and sometimes downright degrading things about others. This would often start within communities and may then extend beyond. Yet still, there were some limitations. Then came the internet and with all the positives that access and reach have provided, so too have the overwhelming negatives. From email lists, Social Media portals, accusatory websites and then some, the internet has been heavily utilized for cyber-bullying and global rumor-mongering.
“One of the major challenges with cyber bullying is tracing the source. Frankly, most persons who have made reports around same are usually shocked when pressed for more information as they are genuinely unable to identify a source or a motive. In fact, we have seen several cases where people are bullied over seemingly simple issues and by persons as close or as far as an envious ex partner, a jealous co-worker, a business partner or even a malicious complete stranger who only has access to another person’s life via glimpses on social Media”.
True to form, globally and in the local space, there has been an increasing number of artistes, athletes, business persons, persons who have started to build a reach and generally just about anyone have been subjected to some form of cyber-bullying. Just actually talk to a few persons and you’d be amazed at how many within your space have been affected in this way. These cyber bully postings have ranged from being extortion like in nature to being more on the libelous, malicious and defamatory side. One has to only look at the comments sections of posts online to see some of the overwhelming and cringe worthy examples.
While the discussions around millennials (those born approximately between 1982 and 2000) and some communication challenges have been ongoing, recent conversations in the local space shows that the challenges continue. This again brings to the fore the need to highlight how best to communicate with “the millennials”. Indeed a Jamaica Gleaner article dated November 5, 2017 opined:
At the same time, even Generation X, which just preceded the Millennials, seem to bristle in interactions with them. One common theme is that the liberal philosophy, brashness and sense of entitlement that is often exhibited by Millennials, flies in the face of the discipline, patience and struggle that is integral to the lives of those who have gone before. It smacks of disrespect and/or ignorance.
– Trevor E. Smith, Jamaica Gleaner
While the article goes on to highlight some of the ways in which millennials and other generations may be better able to move beyond their differences, I found Grossman’s piece on communication with the next “Next generation” to be compelling as it indicates that millennials too feel misunderstood. Indeed I hinted at this when I spoke about the flexibility required by modern communicators.
Given the clear difference of opinions and what may constitute a productivity divide, the info graphic below summarizes typical millennial characteristics which can foster better communication with them/ me/ us 🙂
Having assessed some of the challenges expressed by those who work with millennials and the characteristics of these millennials, it brings to the fore yet another issue that can easily be addressed via communication. Not communication in a very technical sense but the art of interacting with each other, providing channels for feedback and arriving at sustainable solutions. So the next time you are tempted to gasp “ughhh those millenials” or “Omg, no one understands us millenials”, your easiest solution may be to start off with a conversation. This should be done in an effort to get a better understanding of each other and the expectations in a productive space. Again, we already know the power of communication towards engagement and collaboration and now we are equipped with characteristics, so let’s make it a priority even in our immediate space. Importantly too, it benefits all to remember that the ‘top down’ approach to communication doesn’t work! Engagement does!
Are you a millennial? What are some of the communication challenges you face within the productive space? Share these in the comments below. Do you interact with millennials, what are some of your major issues? Need communication guidelines? Let me help you create that story!
============================================================================Shanoy Coombs is a Development Communication Consultant in the Latin America and Caribbean region. Are you Social? Connect with Shanoy on twitter via @InspiraShan and learn more about her work via the projects page
As a Development Communication person, I tend to find communication lessons everywhere and a few weeks ago when I was among a group of students from the German-Jordanian University, it was no different. As this diverse group of students were in the middle Eastern country, Jordan for immersive experiences while learning the Arabic language, it brought some important language lessons to the fore. With courses ranging from one semester to an entire year, I was bemused by the emphasis placed on acquisition of a second (and in some instances a third language). As I struggled with basic Arabic terms, it took me back to something I have always been almost preachy about-that Caribbean nationals NEED to learn a second language.
This has long been apparent to me while working within the United Nation’s Latin America and the Caribbean cluster. I recall with much clarity that the monthly regional Communicators meetings had in excess of two thirds of the attendees being from Spanish Speaking countries. It was even more worrying that most attendees from the Spanish speaking territories could speak and understand English with some clarity but not vice versa.
More compellingly, I recall working along with colleagues from Chile and Venzuela to translate a series of Petro Caribe related documents-all published in Spanish and needing to be readied for the English heavy Jamaican media. It dawned on me then with much force, that my colleagues by virtue of their ability to move between the English and Spanish languages had better equipped themselves for regional posts within the organization. That fact hit me with such a blunt force that I refocused my efforts on at least grasping Spanish. This realization and my recent Arabic immersion compelled me to list some of the reasons why Caribbean Nationals NEED to learn a second language:
Regional Commonsense: By virtue of our geographic location, the Caribbean will likely forever be looped with Latin America. It is therefore commonsense that Caribbean people start with a second language such as Spanish to better assist us to navigate trade and other relations throughout the region.
Personal Good: If you love meeting new people as much as I do, then this is a no brainer. Some of my most meaningful conversations have been struck in airport lounges, coffee shops and other common areas while travelling with persons from other nationalities utilizing my intermediate level Spanish skills.
Business Development: Sure you can hire a translator, but on the odd account that you are travelling for business solo or negotiating a new deal as a young entrepreneur, it is useful and beneficial to be able to interact at the basic level in the native language. Besides, the ability to communicate in a native language can set the tone for better reception and even lifelong friendships thereafter.
Added Value/Competitive Edge: Increasingly, as we forge ahead in this ‘global marketplace’ a second language should be as second nature as utilizing technology across borders. Indeed, in some professions it already is and in toe to toe job interviews for example, your ability to interact in a second language can be the deciding factor.
Adaptability: So you want added opportunities and you want to be recognized as a “global minded” individual? One of the easiest ways to actually earn this title is to adequately prepare yourself to be recognized as such. Being able to speak a second language puts you in a better professional position to bridge several multi cultural barriers and essentially shows that you are diverse, adaptable and possess the ability to interact with other cultures.
Communication industry wise, I’m going out on a limb to say ALL Communication professionals (Journalists, Public Relations practitioners, Development Communication Specialists, Behaviour change and Corporate communication officers etc) and indeed anyone with the intention to do business outside of their own country’s shores should be equipped with a second language. This becomes more imperative if you are trying to diversify your service offerings across borders and cultures. Notably too “Cross culture” and “Intercultural communication” continues to be industry buzz words that aren’t likely to disappear soon. Hence NOW is the time to ensure you are meaningfully engaged in this “world without borders” paradigm.
From my end, there is much merit in being a bi or multi-lingual development communication specialist and so I’m continuing the fluency pursuit con El Espanol. Who knows too, having grown a new appreciation for the Arabic language after being so thoroughly immersed during my recent middle Eastern hop, it may just be my next language to fully pursue.
It is heartening too that for a while now, the Jamaican Government has been encouraging more citizens to learn Spanish as second language. Whether or not there are fully mapped plans in place to ensure there is island wide take up is another situation. Frankly, having studied Spanish as a high schooler, I am now seeing major merit in advancing to sit same in the local Caribbean Examination Council (CXC) exams. In fact, mandatory Spanish at the examination level may be just the start to ensure there is widespread take up.
Otherwise, the Venezuelan Institute in several Caribbean countries offers free Spanish lessons from the Basic to post-superior level. There are also local language centers which offer Spanish, French and other language lessons and remotely, several online platforms offer engaging language studies. Still, Caribbean Nationals can also learn languages by immersion at neighboring countries where the language of choice is the native language.
Are you a bi or multi lingual professional? What are some of the benefits you have reaped as such? What are your favourite channels by which to learn a new language? Have you learnt a new language via cultural immersion? Share in the comments below.
Shanoy Coombs is a Development Communication Consultant in the Latin America and Caribbean region. Are you Social? Connect with Shanoy on twitter via @InspiraShan and learn more about her work via the projects page